My Self Control

I really really really can’t wait for school to start…even though i have so much to do.  I find it ironic that our next main topic of study is Self Control.  Why?  Because I am so far behind in everything that I need to get done!  Between cheer and football season, the crochet projects I’ve promised to people, the sewing projects I’ve promised to people, getting ready for the Back to School Back Pack Bash at my church, catching up on my grading, and then the regular Mommy chores…I am overwhelmed and out of discipline.

Do you ever get that way?  I am over-committed, on a regular basis.  And I need to get back in control because Children in Action is starting in September and I’m not ready for that either!!!!!

So how am I going to emphasize self control when I don’t have it????  First things first…I need to get back into a school routine.  And I have the bones of that done….I just need to really emphasize being disciplined.  I kept a fairly tight schedule yesterday and Barbie noticed.  But I got more done yesterday then I did last week!  I’m working on waking up early as well.  So we will be running a tight ship during cheer and football season so that I can get everything done.

Here is my schedule for school…Kind of;)

I’ll be waking up at 5:30 am: praying, stumbling to the laundry room to start the first load of laundry, grabbing a cup of coffee (or green tea) and then going to do my morning devotion.  Once finished, I’ll start my second load of laundry for the day, go wake up the kids, and then work out. (Yes, I’m trying it again!  I’ve stuck with it for 3 weeks this time!!!)

Once the girls are up and going, I leave them in charge for the half hour it takes me to shower.  They will make sure the boys are ready for the day and they are ready for the day.

Then I’ll cook breakfast.  We’ll have breakfast while I’m reading a book to them.  Our first biography this year will be about Adoniram Judson (he was a missionary in Burma).

We’ll finish eating and doing our kitchen chores then head to the living room for our Family Wisdom Search.  Quick note on our Kitchen chores.  Every one has their own chores and I set the timer for 15 minutes.  While they are picking up the kitchen, I’m folding and then starting a new load of laundry.  They all come and get their pile of clothes when I call them. Our Wisdom Search we only do for about 15 minutes as well.

Then on to our Wisdom Booklet, Music, and their Project Work.  While they are working their projects, I’ll be cooking our main meal of the day.  We all eat together, do Kitchen chores, and then I’ll have about 15 minutes on the computer to check facebook while they are being silly and goofing. 😉  Or arguing with each other, depending on the day. 😉

Next is English.  Barbie is completely independent in this except for grading.  BAM! and Kissy are on the same level, and the boys are all on the same level.  So I will take turns teaching while the groups are doing independent work.  Because of me teaching – this will be 1/2 hour.  This will also give them time to study for spelling, vocabulary, and dictation quizzes.  How they do on their quizzes will determine if they move up a minor level or not. 😉

And then Math for the kids – this is pretty much independent and gives me time to grade the work they have done so far…logging it for the children that have report cards. (If we study math that week as a school, the kids will have a break during this time)

After Math, the boys have a break.  They can choose to work on what they haven’t finished school wise or their chores.  But let’s be honest…they’ll play!!!!  The girls will be taking turns doing typing lessons.  On days they don’t have typing, they have the same choices as the boys (except for Barbie…she has SAT prep class).  What will I be doing?  Working on my “to do” list of the day.

Now it’s Super Clean Time.  We all work together cleaning one room of the house.  We get as much done as we can in 1/2 hour.  The kids hate this time…but they like it better than doing it individually.  We power through!!!!!

Then the girls will do their Independent Science while the boys take turns playing on the computer.  (If we have science as a school that week, the girls will not have science).  I will be working more on my “to do” list!  After about 1/2 hour everyone has free time!  Me too!!!!  This is when I get to crochet, sew, or read!    Then I’ll get our snack ready, and pre prepare anything we need for dinner.  We’ll have a snack…clean up real quick, and get ready for football!

When we all get home, we take turns showering, and eating.  We are doing a family wisdom search at that time as well!  I will tuck all the kids in…and then read myself to sleep!

After looking at all of that, do you see why I need self control??????

If I don’t, I will easily throw everything that needs to be done and play on facebook or computer games all day.  It’s way too easy to do!!!!!

Reading all of that made me tired!!!!  And it’s time for me to start cooking!  Gotta get on the schedule!  Have a blessed day all!!!!


Modern Modesty: Women in Sports

Anyone who knows my family, even for just a little bit, knows that we are involved into sports.  In fact, as I am typing this, Barbie is outside with all of the kids and the tumbling mats and they are working on tumbling.

Papi has long been a sports fan and participant.  In High school, he played football and baseball.  He even walked on to an open try-out for the Marlins.  (Yes, it was a fan gimmick, but he still tried.)  When we met, he was an amateur Xgamer on the vert ramp.  When I was pregnant with Barbie, he became a professional.

Barbie has also been a sports enthusiast since day one.  One of the only things that would calm her down as an infant was watching football!  She participated in ice skating as a toddler, and loves to play soccer and to cheer now.  In fact, all of the kids love soccer; the boys all love playing football, and the girls all love to cheer. (Never visit my house in August, the cheering will completely get on your nerves!)

Why am I telling you all of this?  Because about a month ago, I came across this blog post .  Now, the article is several years old, but it was posted on a facebook modesty page a month or so ago.  So, obviously people are still talking about the topic.  In fact, when I googled “Why women shouldn’t play sports modesty”, there were 47,000,000 hits.   I know that not all of those were about exactly that topic, but the first page was definitely.  This is my answer to the blog post linked above.  (This is my opinion, just as his blog is his opinion.  In no way am I debating that he has the right to his opinion and can raise his family the way he wishes.)

I literally stopped at his first sentence, “For quite a long time, women resisted the feminist call to play sports, since they just weren’t interested like men were.”  This is a supposition that is just not TRUE!  Again, handy dandy google to the rescue.  In 776 BC the first Olympic event was held in Greece.  Women were excluded.  it was just for men.  However; women held their own “Olympics” and called it “The Games of Hera”.  In 396 BC there was a Spartan woman who actually won a chariot race in the Olympics.  But she couldn’t collect her prize because, well, she was a woman.  A little research, and I uncovered this timeline of the History of Women in Sports….. .  I think those women deserve a little respect.  They did contribute, and they WERE interested in sports.  Are there some women who do not play sports?  Of Course!!!!  In fact, I am one of them.  I don’t like participating in any sport, unless you consider hiking a sport, because I’m just not that good at it. And I’m too competitive to be ok with losing all of the time! 😉

And now we go to his second supposition, which I agree with in part, that sports is all of the rage in public schools.  Because most Christian parents send their children to public schools, then the Christian children are also pursuing sports actively.  And I completely agree that the culture is influencing our church (meaning the body of Christ) instead of the other way around. However, it’s not just public schools.  Homeschoolers, which are predominately Christian, use sports as well.  In fact, a good portion of us take advantage of Title IX through so called “Tim Tebow” laws.

I also don’t agree that sports interfere with having a godly character for women, anymore than they interfere with the development of godly character in young men.  As a family, we see the sports fields we are on as mission fields.  As a coach, and as a mother, I insist my athletes and my children always participate in fair play, demonstrate good sportsmanship, and give their 100% best.  I let all of the parents of my athletes know from the very beginning that I am a practicing Christian, and I also invite them and their children to church several times during the season.  You wouldn’t believe how their behavior adjusts itself, I think making the entire game an easier one, as everyone is being respectful.

I don’t agree that participating in competitive sports stops my daughters from being feminine.  Barbie is sweet, loving, and aggressively competitive on and off the field.  But if an opponent or a teammate is injured, she is the first one there to make sure they are ok or to assist them in anyway.  She is fierce….but that has been her personality since day one, and I don’t see how being an active participant has changed it.  (She has her Daddy’s personality!)  BAM! on the other hand, is manipulative, sweet, loving, and not competitive at all – unless it’s against Barbie!  She enjoys participating in sports, but they won’t be her chosen career field.  She enjoys the camaraderie of other girls more than she enjoys the competitiveness.  She takes after me!!!! And I dare ANYONE to try and get hold of a blow dryer or a mirror Sunday morning before church as my daughters are getting ready to go.  Good luck!  You won’t find one available.   And on Saturday night, they are usually picking out their outfits and painting their nails to match!!!

I believe that actively participating in sports enhances women physically and mentally.  We no longer live in the age where women worked physically, scrubbing clothing by hand, carting heavy basins of water, walking every where,  digging out gardens, grinding wheat, or even kneading dough by hand.  We have machines for all of that!!!!!  As Americans, we are drastically less physical than the “third” world countries.

Competitive Sports also enhances women mentally.  No, I’m not talking of their aggressiveness or competitiveness.  Whether it is watching a fast pitch leave the hand and calculating lightening fast the arch and the speed of the ball to swing the bat at just the right time and angle, or listening to music while counting the beat of the next lift and twist by the flyer while simultaneously calculating her height in the air to catch her effectively, or silently communicating with a glance to the quarterback as you run down the field and look up, reaching to catch the ball….the athletes’ mind is moving at a rapid pace and keeping those calculations.  It has been shown in study after study that our brains need that kind of stimulation to avoid things like Alzheimers.

I do agree that our nation is filled with weak men and disorderly women.  I don’t agree that it is caused by competitive sports!  An athlete can still be a competitive athlete and a submissive woman. Our daughters are trained to be obedient and submissive.  They have their struggles (don’t we all – I still have submission issues – oh wait, that’s a whole nother post), but I have no fear that they will be wonderful, godly wives and mothers.  In fact, a LOT of the high school homeschoolers I know are athletes…and I’m sure THEY will also be wonderful, godly wives and mothers. Once they get married, I’m fairly certain they will not want to be “professional” at whatever sport they are active in.  But it IS possible to do something you love and be married.

Yes, on the field women are aggressive.  They push, wince, sneer and fight just like the men do.  Yes, in public schools the girls play against the boys or with them, depending on the sports.  Barbie has been a member of a co-ed team, and it made her a better competitor.  She actually had to battle the disrespect of her male teammates.  They didn’t think she could play “as good as” a boy.  And at first, she couldn’t.  But she is faster and more agile than the boys, and she had more endurance.  They learned to treat her as an equal on the field.  Off the field, they treated her as a friend and a girl.  With a lot more respect than they treated other girls.

I don’t like the uniforms that some sports insist the girls wear as I don’t find them modest.  I don’t like women that are built like men as a matter of choice instead of genetics.  I don’t (obviously) care for the Greek system of Public School.  If I did, I would have my children IN Public School instead of the homeschool environment. But I can not agree with this gentleman….I can’t.

The assertion that women should not be competitive is one that irks me to the core.  If he has spent any time around women at all, he’ll realize that men are not genetically NEARLY as competitive as women.  Put two women in a room with blank walls and the same clothing and they will compete to see who is wearing it better, who it fits better, and who looks better.  Put two women with their children in a room and you will see a quiet cat fight as they “one up” each other on who’s baby is smarter, prettier, more advanced, more special.  We are competitive beings.  Our competitions make sports look weak.

And I can’t help but wonder as I read this blog….is he really against women in sports?  I understand his points, but I think he is making “a mountain out of  a molehill.”

I hope you have not been offended by this blog.  I do hope it’s made you think.  And I hope that you do not feel condemned in any way by my statements.  Ultimately, it is up to the parents to decide what they want for their children. As for Holy Knees Homeschool Academy, we will continue to play competitive sports.