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SmartyPants

Mom’s name is Jesica.

My mom loves God.

God loves momy very much.

My mom ask God in her hart.

With my mom i’m pretected.

Mom reads the Bible about 2.00 hours.

We have a cute marker board that I bought at Walmart several years ago for about $30.  It’s hanging in our Breakfast room.  Every day I write on it.  I write what we’re having to eat that day, what the weather will be that day, and anything special we’re doing that day.  I also have a line that says, “Nothing to Do?”.  Underneath it I write suggestions for if the kids are bored.  The kids know that if they say, “There’s nothing to do.” or “I’m bored.”, then they will be directed to do what is on the marker board.

Smarty Pants is the worst at this.  This child believes that he can do nothing of himself, he must be entertained at all times, especially by something electronic.  If I have said no tv, no computer, and no mp3 players, then he goes insane.  A couple of days ago, the “Nothing to Do?” board said, “Write a blog post.”  Guess who said, “I’m bored.”?  That’s right, Smarty Pants.

I posted exactly what he wrote, errors in spelling and grammar and all!!! The line that touched me the most???  “With my mom i’m pretected.”  Why does that matter so much?  Because he has spent from the time of 8 months old til he was 7 bounced around from home to home, both foster and biological.  He’s never felt safe, because he never knew for sure he was staying.  He’s been kicked out of homes for throwing temper tantrums (at 2 mind you), or just because the foster parents were done.  He has always felt that it was always his fault he was being passed on, never the adults.  For him to say that I “pretect” him, well, that just makes all the trying times worth it.

I hope you enjoyed our first guest blogger!  There will be more guest bloggers soon, I hope!

All day snacking……

 

We are homeschoolers – so we are HOME! Before the kids moved in, we were kind of a eat as you go, whatever you want. But once Dimples moved in especially, we noticed that he was ALWAYS hungry. It didn’t take long to figure out that he wasn’t really hungry, but he wasn’t sure that he was going to ever be fed again. Coming from a neglectful birth home, and some equally neglectful foster homes, he was never sure that he was going to eat the next meal. So he constantly asked me for food or stated how hungry he was. Smarty Pants had the same feelings, only his resulted in eating huge quantities at every meal…which led to him vomiting. I needed to give them both assurance that they would be fed again, without feeding into their potentially self destructive eating habits. So I thought, and I prayed, I asked people whose children had eating issues, then I thought, and I prayed some more.

A couple of days later I struck on a very simple solution. I made a meal plan for the week in excel. It was a simple plan, but it listed everything we were going to eat – 3 meals a day, and 3 snacks a day. I posted this on the refrigerator along with scheduled times of meals, and any time Dimples asked if he could eat, I would respond with “is it time to eat?”. He would quickly check the oven clock, and if it was close to time, he would ask what to eat. I would respond with “what’s on the list?”. So he would run back into the kitchen to check the meal plan. Then he would get whatever snack, or ask Barbie to fix him breakfast, lunch, or dinner.

Making a meal plan once a week was getting to be tedious and arduous. I changed plans a little, and began making a monthly meal plan. I go shopping at a Box Store once a month, and then to the local farmers market and to the local grocery store once a week to pick up incidentals. This saves time and money! I post the schedule for the month on the fridge, and the menu for the day is posted on a white board that I put into the dining room.

Oh….I also go to the day old bread store once a month and pick up bread, bagels, muffins, and tortillas for the month. I spend about $30 and usually come out with all that I need for the entire month!!!! I just freeze anything I’m not using right away.

After almost a year and a half, I’ve noticed something. Dimples doesn’t complain that he is hungry near as much! He will ask if he can go get whatever the snack is for that day, but he isn’t constantly (and I do mean constantly) asking for food. I don’t stick to the “Is it time to eat?” question anymore, I now just check my phone quickly to make sure we won’t be eating lunch or dinner in the next half hour. He still asks if he can have this or that, but he knows to check the board for what the snack is and he just confirms that he can have it.  I think the fear of him never eating again is gone!!! Praise the Lord!!! He’s put on some weight as well. All three of them were sooooooo thin when they first moved in. I know for a fact that Kissy has gained 15 pounds and grown 3″!!!!! The boys not so much as they play all of their food off…but they have definitely gained some weight!

I’m so happy that his food issues seem to be ebbing away.  I know that he will always have bad memories, but love and consistent food have made them all very distant for him.