My Self Control

I really really really can’t wait for school to start…even though i have so much to do.  I find it ironic that our next main topic of study is Self Control.  Why?  Because I am so far behind in everything that I need to get done!  Between cheer and football season, the crochet projects I’ve promised to people, the sewing projects I’ve promised to people, getting ready for the Back to School Back Pack Bash at my church, catching up on my grading, and then the regular Mommy chores…I am overwhelmed and out of discipline.

Do you ever get that way?  I am over-committed, on a regular basis.  And I need to get back in control because Children in Action is starting in September and I’m not ready for that either!!!!!

So how am I going to emphasize self control when I don’t have it????  First things first…I need to get back into a school routine.  And I have the bones of that done….I just need to really emphasize being disciplined.  I kept a fairly tight schedule yesterday and Barbie noticed.  But I got more done yesterday then I did last week!  I’m working on waking up early as well.  So we will be running a tight ship during cheer and football season so that I can get everything done.

Here is my schedule for school…Kind of;)

I’ll be waking up at 5:30 am: praying, stumbling to the laundry room to start the first load of laundry, grabbing a cup of coffee (or green tea) and then going to do my morning devotion.  Once finished, I’ll start my second load of laundry for the day, go wake up the kids, and then work out. (Yes, I’m trying it again!  I’ve stuck with it for 3 weeks this time!!!)

Once the girls are up and going, I leave them in charge for the half hour it takes me to shower.  They will make sure the boys are ready for the day and they are ready for the day.

Then I’ll cook breakfast.  We’ll have breakfast while I’m reading a book to them.  Our first biography this year will be about Adoniram Judson (he was a missionary in Burma).

We’ll finish eating and doing our kitchen chores then head to the living room for our Family Wisdom Search.  Quick note on our Kitchen chores.  Every one has their own chores and I set the timer for 15 minutes.  While they are picking up the kitchen, I’m folding and then starting a new load of laundry.  They all come and get their pile of clothes when I call them. Our Wisdom Search we only do for about 15 minutes as well.

Then on to our Wisdom Booklet, Music, and their Project Work.  While they are working their projects, I’ll be cooking our main meal of the day.  We all eat together, do Kitchen chores, and then I’ll have about 15 minutes on the computer to check facebook while they are being silly and goofing. 😉  Or arguing with each other, depending on the day. 😉

Next is English.  Barbie is completely independent in this except for grading.  BAM! and Kissy are on the same level, and the boys are all on the same level.  So I will take turns teaching while the groups are doing independent work.  Because of me teaching – this will be 1/2 hour.  This will also give them time to study for spelling, vocabulary, and dictation quizzes.  How they do on their quizzes will determine if they move up a minor level or not. 😉

And then Math for the kids – this is pretty much independent and gives me time to grade the work they have done so far…logging it for the children that have report cards. (If we study math that week as a school, the kids will have a break during this time)

After Math, the boys have a break.  They can choose to work on what they haven’t finished school wise or their chores.  But let’s be honest…they’ll play!!!!  The girls will be taking turns doing typing lessons.  On days they don’t have typing, they have the same choices as the boys (except for Barbie…she has SAT prep class).  What will I be doing?  Working on my “to do” list of the day.

Now it’s Super Clean Time.  We all work together cleaning one room of the house.  We get as much done as we can in 1/2 hour.  The kids hate this time…but they like it better than doing it individually.  We power through!!!!!

Then the girls will do their Independent Science while the boys take turns playing on the computer.  (If we have science as a school that week, the girls will not have science).  I will be working more on my “to do” list!  After about 1/2 hour everyone has free time!  Me too!!!!  This is when I get to crochet, sew, or read!    Then I’ll get our snack ready, and pre prepare anything we need for dinner.  We’ll have a snack…clean up real quick, and get ready for football!

When we all get home, we take turns showering, and eating.  We are doing a family wisdom search at that time as well!  I will tuck all the kids in…and then read myself to sleep!

After looking at all of that, do you see why I need self control??????

If I don’t, I will easily throw everything that needs to be done and play on facebook or computer games all day.  It’s way too easy to do!!!!!

Reading all of that made me tired!!!!  And it’s time for me to start cooking!  Gotta get on the schedule!  Have a blessed day all!!!!

 

Am I Quiverfull?????

About a year ago, a very good friend “L” asked me if I was Quiverfull.  I really wasn’t sure what that meant, but I answered that I thought so.  With a smile and a sheepish grin.  Of course, as soon as she left the house I just had to google what Quiverfull really was!!!

I found several websites criticizing the “Quiverfull Movement” but none that actually told me what that WAS!!!!!  (Can you feel my frustration?)  I found an article over on patheos that gave me exactly what I wanted! *Warning – DO NOT go over there unless you plan on being patient with the ads!*  A real description of what this man believes the Quiverfull Movement is.  And I wanted to see if I was Quiverfull.  (Because it would be really funny if I was part of the movement and didn’t even know it!)  I’m going to go through His basic tenets and let you know what I believe in reference to them.  Got it?  good.  Because I’m not sure I do!  😉 😉

1. Quiverfullthe idea that God is in control of family planning.  Hmmmmm.  I have to be honest and say that until a few years ago I thought that I was in control of my fertility.  I am woman, hear me roar.  And then, with no outside influence at all, different Bible verses starting sticking out to me.  And I started to believe that protecting against children was like telling a boss that you didn’t want a raise.  Foolish, right?  But if God says that children are a blessing, then by protecting against being pregnant is like telling God not to bless me.  Ah.  So, I guess I do believe that God is in control of family planning.

2. Not a Denomination – there is no particular denomination associated with being Quiverfull.  Well, that’s good.  Cuz I’m a tried and true Southern Baptist. 😉

3. Patriarchy the belief that it is the father who is the head of the home, he serves as protector, provider and shepherd for his wife and children.  Well, yes.  I believe that too.  I believe that Papi is the head of the household.  He protects us as best he can, provides for us (he’s the only salary), and leads us in spiritual and other matters.  He’s not a dictator, I definitely have a voice, but he has the final say.  OK – that’s 3 for 3!

4. Courtship instead of Dating – the parents are very involved in the courtship process, and the fathers are ultimately in control of the entire thing. Well, yes, we practice courtship instead of dating.  I don’t believe that Papi is in charge of everything though.  We believe that it is an entire family thing.  Our entire family gets to know the other family.  We believe that by watching a family interact, it can speak volumes about how a young man will treat his wife or how a young woman will treat her husband.

5. Sheltering of the children – the parents isolate and control outside influences on the children. OK.  This one is a little different.  Do I isolate my children?  NO.  Please.  There are days I wonder how we are going to get any schoolwork done with all of our outside activities.  No one else in my church homeschools.  90% of my girls friends are public school children.  And a good portion of those aren’t Christians.  NOW, that being said….None of my children have cell phones.  The girls text their friends using my phone and I monitor all texts.  We’ve had boys before saying inappropriate things to Barbie…via text.  So for her safety (emotionally and physically) we made that choice.  Our children watch tv…though only Barbie gets to watch PG-13 without parental approval.  And come to think of it, she needs parental approval as well…she just has a little more leeway in her choices.  She’s a huge fan of gothic horror – so watching Vampire Diaries is not out of the question for her, as long as I’m watching with her.  We also allow our children to read books from the library.  And there was only one book (which the girls alerted me to) that we asked the library to switch into a different section.  Turns out that the book was inappropriate from standards for the children’s section and they created an entire section of that sort of book in the teen section….it was a comic book dealing in more mature (though not horrible) subject matter.  It was put with the Batman comics which my boys were reading prior to that – um,. NO!

6. Biblical Manhood and Womanhood  – the men are the spiritual and emotional leaders of the home, the women are home makers whose job is to raise a family.  Yeah.  Totally agree.  Though not all women want children – that’s cool it’s their choice.  I really feel that when a man is not leading his home he feels emasculated.  And when a woman is not being led in the home she is craving someone to lead her.  It doesn’t mean that the woman has to do what the man says as soon as he says it.  She has a voice and an opinion….and as long as she is not nagging him, she should use her voice.  I find in our relationship that most of the giant choices have been my ideas.  I vocalize them to hubby and then he takes FOREVER! to decide yes or no. 😉  When he says yes, I’ve already prepared and done a huge amount of research so that it can be implemented immediately.  🙂

7.  Being debt-free and independent of government programs/subsidies –  this leads to financial hardship and deprivation.    OK.  If you do this incorrectly it can lead to deprivation.  But what exactly does that mean?  In our state, we would be legally qualified for financial aid for food.  SNAP I think the program is.  But we don’t need it.  Our kids eat – a TON!  And we somehow make it work.  None of our children are starving….we eat a ton of fresh fruit and veggies, chicken, fish, even steak!  And our dogs eat some of the most expensive food out there too (they have special diets due to medical needs). We buy new clothes for the kids almost every month.  Yes.  The majority of that is from thrift stores….but we also give at least a garbage bag of stuff to thrift stores every week as well.  We just don’t need everything we have.  We are still working our way out of debt and hope to be debt free (except for the house) within the year….instead of hurting us financially, this has helped us.  We have more cash to spend instead of huge credit card statements!

8. Home Church / Family-Integrated Church – this is so the parents can monitor more closely the children.  I couldn’t disagree more.  We don’t go to a home church or a family integrated church, though I sometimes wish we did.  I think the parents should be intimately involved in their children’s spiritual training.  For instance, there is a SS teacher in my church who has difficulty some days distinguishing between completely outlandish conspiracy theories and things that are actually happening in the world.  I ask my children every time after church what they learned….and there are some instances that I have to explain to my children the truth.  This leads to pretty good discussions about the false theory compared to what we believe.

and last but certainly not least….

9. Modesty – women must dress modestly so as to not “defraud” the men. We all know that men are visual.  But some women are as well.  I dress modestly, 90% of the time wearing longer skirts.  But I don’t force this on my girls.  I do adamantly stick to my guns as far as I don’t want to see underclothing at any time.  Skirts and dresses must pass the “bend over” test as well.  And no bikinis – full pieces period.  We also insist that the boys are modest.  No going without their shirts at any time.  And no visible boxers or they are liable to get atomic wedgies. (from their sisters!)  I’ve never been a clothing Nazi.  Well, except when we recently went to a Bible conference, I made all of the kids stick to the dress code perfectly. 😉  But they used their individual style.  Expressing themselves with bright and colorful tank tops, shoes, and accessories!

So, what do you think?  Am I QUIVERFULL?  I think I probably am.  I belong to a few facebook pages that are Quiverfull minded.  So I guess I am.  What do you think?  Am I?

Multi Colored Carriage Cover

There is a veritable baby boom among friends and family…so I am trying to kick out as many different baby items as possible.

In early May, my sis in law had a sweet baby boy and I crocheted a sleep sack and cap for him.

In late May (while we were traveling), a young woman at my church had a darling baby girl.

I used our traveling time to crochet a darling Carriage Cover.  I got the pattern out of a Bucilla Yarn Pattern Book from 1950.  It turned out beautifully.

Materials: 6 balls of yarn (or one of those giant ones) Crochet Hook Size 3

 

Approximate Size is 26″ by 32″.  Ch 170.  Work pattern 28 times.

Row 1: 1 sc in 2nd st from hook, *skip 2 sts, a shell of 5 dc in next st, skip 2 sts, 1 sc in next st; repeat from * to end.

Row 2: Ch 3, turn, 2 dc in first sc, *1 sc in center dc of next shell, 1 shell of 5 dc in back loop of next sc; repeat from *, end 3 dc instead of 5 dc in last sc.

Row 3: Ch 1, turn, 1 sc in first dc, * 1 shell of 5 dc in back loop of next sc, 1 sc in center dc of next shell; repeat from *, end 1 sc in top of turning ch.

Border: Ch1, turn, 3 sc in first sc (corner), * 1 sc in each of next 5 dc, skip next sc; repeat from * working to corner; 3 sc in corner; continue sc on side; work other half to corner being careful to keep even edge and working each corner.

Round 2: Skip 1 sc, 10 dc in next sc (center sc at corner), * skip 2 sc, 1 sc in next sc, skip 2 sc, 7 dc in next sc, repeat from * around, having a shell of 10 dc in center st at each corner.  Fasten off.

Add your favorite edging.  I did a small Picot stitch (my very favorite). 😉

 

Carriage Cover June 2014 002 June 2014 003 June 2014 004

 

Happy 4th of July

As you go about your day today, celebrating however you celebrate (we’re going to visit Papi’s family in Miami), remember the men and women who served and died so that you can wave that sparkler in the air. So that you can drink that beer. So that you can eat that watermelon.
Remember and give Thanks.
With all of our differences. With all of our infighting and fussing. We are Americans. Be thankful that God placed you in this nation, at this time, for this purpose.
Praise the Lord!

Traveling with the Horde Part 2

I told you about our first day of traveling on the road.  6 kids + 2 adults + 13 hours = YIKES!!!!

But I was pleasantly surprised.  And Day 2, I was pleasantly surprised as well.  We continued awarding tokens for good behavior every hour, and letting them bid their tokens in auction style for control of the game/video/radio.  Believe it or not, we only played 1 game the entire day!!!!!

We played Car Bingo.  I had pinned it from here.  It was ok.  We played twice.  Once for the original “Bingo” and once for the “Whole Card”.  It took about an hour and was a great way for the kids to practice attentiveness!

We had a wonderful day, with very little arguing.  Not did I hear, “Are we there yet?” or “He’s touching me!”  That’s a huge feat for 6 kids in one vehicle!  I was so impressed and happy.

Tennessee 2014

At about an hour from our destination, Papi decided to call the hotel and double-check the reservation (for the third time). The hotel we were staying in said that they had the rooms, but instead of 2 non smoking rooms next to each other or across from each other, they were on 2 separate floors!  Papi was upset, but I told him it would be ok, it was only a week, and we really would only be sleeping there, so it was no big deal.

We kept driving, and quickly reached our destination.  We pulled into the parking lot of a very pretty brick hotel.  Papi parked the truck and went inside.  And we waited.  And we waited.  And we waited some more.  After what seemed like forever, I told the kids to get out of the truck and we went inside.  Which was good because 2 of the 6 had to use the restroom.  I should have had a clue…..but I didn’t.  There was no restroom in the lobby.  They had to go into the manager’s office to use the restroom.  I think having all of the children in the lobby made the front desk clerk work a little faster, because we quickly had our keys to the rooms.  We separated – boys on one floor and girls on the other.  When I opened the room door I was engulfed in the smell of stale bodies and smoke.  Immediately my asthma started.  We quickly got the a/c going and I put some drops of Peppermint and Lavender oil on the unit to try to cleanse the air.  I checked the kitchenette to discover it had almost NO utensils of any kind in it.  I slipped off my shoes and immediately put them back on because the floor was sticky.  Papi called from his room and his first words were, “Is your room as bad as mine?”  I wheezed out, “Yes.”  But there wasn’t much we could do, right?

And then I used the restroom.  Oh my.  Let’s just say it was worse than some public bathrooms I’ve been in.  But the kicker was when the toilet seat came off in my hand.

What I say next will cause some of you to think I am an insufferable snob.  But I’m really not.  I grew up poor.  I know what it is to actually LIVE in a No tell Motel for a while.  But my asthma was going crazy and I couldn’t imagine my precious babies staying in this place for a minute longer, let alone an entire week.  I called Papi and told him I wanted to leave, and right away.  And he agreed because before I could barely get the words out of my mouth, he was at my hotel door and we were gone.

But now we had a huge problem.  We were in Nashville, TN.  It was Saturday evening at 6 pm…and we had nowhere to sleep for the night, let alone the week.  Papi got on his phone and I got on mine.  He was checking on the internet, and I was checking with a family I knew had been to Nashville several times for good hotel ideas.

The kids were nervous and worried.  But I wasn’t.  I knew we would be ok.  Especially if I could make it an adventure for the children.  It took a couple of hours of phone calls, but we finally did get a wonderful hotel….and it was SUCH a blessing!!!!

not only would we all be on the same floor….we would all be in the SAME ROOM!  Yes.  They had a room that slept 8!!!!!!!  I can not say enough about how wonderful the GuestHouse Suites in Nashville, TN is.  If you are ever in Nashville – please visit them.  The staff was amazing.  They handled 6 tired, cranky, kids and 2 worried parents with grace and sweetness.  We got the room for the entire week.  And they gave us a great rate because of our dire situation.

GuestHouse  Inn and Suites

 

 

To quote a different hotel chain, “They’ll leave the light on for ya’!”